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Chris Brown and Rhianna
I waited about a month to see what the media had to say about the Chris Brown/ Rhianna situation. I was hoping for Rhianna to come out and shed some light on the subject, still I understand why she didn’t. This has lead to quite a few rumours, which obviously most are not true. The latest is that Rhianna got pissed off at Chris when she saw a three page text message about ‘hooking up later’. Rhianna hit out at Chris and the ‘Take you down’ R&B singer brutally fought back causing injury to Rhianna. It was reported that the female that sent the text was Chris’ manager who had a sexual relationship with Chris when he was 16! This is the latest people so bear with me.
Everybody hates Chris?
This is the burning topic of conversation on almost everyone’s lips. At the gym last week, I hear people saying: ‘I threw away my Chris Brown’s CD’s since I heard’, ‘some women deserve a slap now and then’, ‘Chris Brown was wrong’, ‘Rhianna should have left Chris’, ‘Chris shows her that he is a man’, ‘Chris Brown’s career is over’ ‘This happens everyday’ and many more comments which I’m sure you must have heard yourself. When a male fights a female and hurts her, you will have to look at that man’s (or boy’s) life and see how they treat the women close to them, such as their moms, sisters etc. If their mum were abused by their dad then more than likely you will see that child grew up to do the same thing as they saw it as norm in their family.
The fight between the lovebirds has opened up the discussion on domestic violence which is a huge problem in society today. While driving to work, I heard talk shows dedicated to domestic violence. Several women phoned up the hotline, airing their experiences of abuse from their partners often for decades. Startlingly, most of these victims still love their man and has remained with them throughout the abuse! I will give my opinion on the Chris Brown/Rhianna drama later but I will not make judgements as I do not know what happened. All I can is that I wouldn’t have taken the route that Chris did, I don’t believe in slapping a woman. If I have to slap her to make her understand me I might as well be a pimp and that’s just not me. Let me also point out that just as how I believe men should not hit women, the same rule applies to women who should not even try to hit men. It is still disrespect from any angle you look at it. If Rhianna provoked the attack from Chris Brown then that’s another debate which should show ladies not to hit or lash out at a guy (with issues) and not expect any retaliation. Furthermore there are several incidence of domestic violence against men not reported only because the victims were male. An NFL player was stabbed twice by his girlfriend but this wasn’t reported. See this link http://www.thisis50.com/profiles/blogs/geno-hayes-gets-stabbed-twice. A few years ago I was walking home and saw a woman chasing a grown ass man down the street. I couldn’t help but laugh but how ironic?
I always say that women who suffer continuous physical abuse (sometimes mental abuse) over long periods from their men and hope that he will change are certainly suffering from very low self esteem, where the man may constantly tell the woman that she is worthless etc and hit her, which will conclude with the woman depending how strong she is believe everything the guy is drumming into her due to his own insecurities. The woman may think that she cannot get any better than the guy who is bullying her. Indeed every situation is different, as alcohol and drugs often has roles to play in domestic violence. In many situations the women themselves trigger this whole thing, if the men are not strong or mature enough, a few words from their women could fill them with rage. What I’m trying to say every situation is different and should be looked at accordingly and the same applies to the Rhianna Chris Brown scenario.
On a personal note I believe the same gut reaction that Rhianna should use in deciding whether staying with Chris is the same one she should use when she dialled 911 screaming about the attack. Still I will say that even though Rhianna and Chris Brown are celebrities, they are still human. People go through scenarios like this everyday and should be allowed to work out their own problems the way they see fit. Many of you, who are quick to comment, often have sisters or mothers who are being ill-treated by some men, what are your opinions on that? and what are you going to do about it? The point I’m trying to make is that domestic violence and women suffering abuse is a serious problem and the same energy we put into this Chris Brown/ Rhianna mania is the same vigour we should use to remove it (or keep it away) from our individual lives.
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